The United Nations not only blames the unacceptable levels of violence against women and girls throughout the world as being a product of inequality, but it now states (2015)

“a major obstacle for ending violence against women is the persistence of discriminatory attitudes and social norms that normalize and permit violence.”

Because of the play I’ve been writing, The New ‘F’ Word,  I recently looked at some hard core porn on line to understand how/why it is affecting young men’s attitudes to girls/women.

I had heard about the fact that boys as young as 8 are watching porn regularly (weekly) but I had not looked at it.

My notion of porn was something that by today’s standards would be called erotica. If that’s your notion of it I challenge you to go on line and Google “Hard core porn”.

When I did this, very worryingly, I was taken in two clicks, with no age check nor censorship or warnings, to a site which offered me the following choices

  • Rough sex
  • Japanese
  • Squirt
  • Gangbang
  • Anal
  • Bondage
  • Teen 18+
  • Big tits
  • Lesbian

Most, if not all, of which had little vignettes playing for me to see some of the choices, most of which were of anal sex.

You could then click on an image and watch a promo.

Easily accessible, rough, gross and mostly anal.

But of course all the women were depicted as enjoying it and asking for more.

So that is what our young hard core porn watchers are seeing before they’ve had their first kiss – depictions of females being treated disgustingly, roughly and insultingly and supposedly enjoying being choked, slapped and gang raped and then asking for more.

It is said that

“porn has become an educator, grooming tool and significant contributor to the scripting and programming of a child’s sexual and relational development on line.

Regular viewing is linked to sexually abusive behaviours and teaches young men to have an attitude of sexual entitlement, and young women not to recognise their own abuse.

We can’t ignore the role it plays in normalising bullying, sexual abuse and harassment, and how we now have generations of children growing up with violence as the basis of their sexual scripting due to pornography being the main form of education, causing confusion over consent and normalising violence in relationships.”

eChildhood Submission May 23 2018 – BRINGING THE CONVERSATION OUT OF THE SHADOWS.

The content of porn has radically changed over the past 10 – 20 years.

And access to it has increased to 24/7 to the extent that it is now considered a major contributor to the normalization of violence against women and girls.

An ABC investigation in 2018 found that 33.5 billion people around the world viewed porn and Australia was 9th on the list, only exceeded by countries with much larger populations such as US, UK and India.

It is reported that 88% of hard core porn involves aggression.

Having watched a very small bit of hard corn porn, (I had to turn it off very quickly as it made me feel really sick), I found myself, for the first time in my life supporting some form of censorship. 

Censorship currently does not exist with online porn. Not even to the level of movies or TV programmes.

Firstly to protect children and adolescents and secondly the unwary. It is extremely toxic viewing and there is no warning.

I have always supported the rights of consenting adults to be free to do whatever they choose, which covers the actors and the viewers of hard core porn. Provided there is no exploitation of the female actors, which is not uncommon even in the mainstream film industry – think Harvey Weinstein.

However there is strong evidence that hard core porn is a significant factor in the stubbornly high, and increasing figures of intimate partner violence and sexual assault which, if right, begs for some form of censorship. Or, at the very least, lock outs of some age groups and a great deal of research.

Having watched the little I could stomach I have to say it also begs the question…

What is it about hard core porn that is attractive to some people?

It is not enticing, sensual and erotic. Most of it is violent and ugly, so what aspect of that is sexually stimulating?

I have no idea, but am unnerved about what might be the answer.

I would love to hear some theories on this.